Romantic Dating / Rabbi A Moss

Question:

My relationship is moving ahead. We certainly love each other, and we have from the start, but we do have our differences.

All my friends say, the main thing is, that you are in love, and everything else will fall into place. But is this true?

Answer:

What you need to know about relationships, you can learn from making model airplanes.

A mistake when making a model airplane is, to start by first putting glue, on all the parts. You wind up having glue in the wrong places, on the wrong parts. And later, when you realize your mistake it’s too late, because now it is almost impossible to remove the glue.

It makes things much more difficult, when you put the glue on too early.

The way to build a model airplane, is to first find the right part, and then apply the glue on it. Then you will end up having, a functional model airplane, instead of a mess.
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The parts may not fit perfectly at first. You may have to make some adjustments. You may need to shave off some rough edges, or bend some parts into shape.

Minor imperfections can be overlooked, a drop of glue, can fix them up. Then with a bit of work, all the pieces come together, and become one.

But if you find, that there are parts missing, or they don't fit, then you can’t make an airplane. Then don’t use glue, it won’t help. You have to look for a different model.
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A relationship, is like a model airplane. You and your partner are the pieces, and love is the glue, that sticks you together. Without the binding power of love, two individuals could never become one.

But that power, like glue, is indiscriminate. It must be applied carefully, because it could stick, just about anything together; meaning, that you can love someone, who is simply not for you.

Before opening our hearts, we must ensure first, that we have the right pieces to build a relationship. The building blocks of a solid relationship are: shared values and common purpose.

Our priorities in life, beliefs, and visions for the future, must fit together.

We can have different opinions, different tastes, and different ways of expressing ourselves; but as long as we can, share those differences respectfully, then we can become one.

But if our values are not in synch, then we simply have different futures - we are not going in the same direction.
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All you need is: shared values, and commitment, and a wholesome view of what a relationship really is.

Model airplanes are not exactly poetic, but what's better - romantic dating, that crashes; or sticking together, for a lifetime?